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Confusion arises because certain spiritual teachings say that detachment from the world is necessary for enlightenment. The concept of detachment can be confused with release from pain, a way of numbing so that you don't have to experience the pains of life. If you are not willing to fully experience the pains of love, the pains of the heart breaking open, then you close your heart in the name of comfort and control, even in the name of enlightenment.
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Give up every idea of detachment, and experience your detachment fully. Experience the pain and the beauty of attachment, and the grief as what you are attached to is ripped away. Then you will recognize what can never be detached, what is not some stoic, unfeeling, unemotional, inhuman existence, but what is freely and consciously all of it.
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~ Gangaji
from: the Diamond in your Pocket
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